When do you give yourself permission to pause and reflect? What is your body telling you? What restores you?
Finding time to relax and connect with your own wisdom is part of the gift of coaching. Much gratitude to those of you with whom I’m privileged to be serving. And for those of you considering, beginning again, coaching is available here for growing that which is most near and dear to your heart.
Enjoy this article for enhancing well-being, professional development and tending your precious life energy.
With Waves of Gratitude, Teddy
There is no controlling life. Try corralling a lightning bolt, containing a tornado. Dam a stream and it will create a new channel. Resist, and the tide will sweep you off your feet. Allow, and grace will carry you to higher ground. The only safety lies in letting it all in – the wild and the weak; fear, fantasies, failures and success. When loss rips off the doors ofthe heart, or sadness veils your vision with despair, practice becomes simply bearing the truth. In the choice to let go of your known way of being, the whole world is revealed to your new eyes.
I’m hoping this finds you well and enjoying the golden light of summer.
While many of us have been delighting in reuniting with family and friends, having our freedom after a long haul of pandemic protections, creates pause for social adjustments. I’ve heard many say, “I liked it the way it was.” “Being less busy had its own gifts.” If you are pondering lifestyle changes, coaching support is available here.
This past year has made me think about the preciousness of life. In face of so much loss, globally and personally, my beloved partner would often comment, “We have this moment and the next.” This wisdom was born out of the loss of his late wife, Claire, who was a dear friend. In honor of her courage facing an excruciating five year decline Gene Zimmerman published a book of poetry called “Searching for Clarity.” It is an entry to the deep love, grace and grief one encounters when facing un-chartered territory of a family member’s decline. Ultimately, it offers hope to those wondering, “How does one carry on for one more day?”
“A poet is a nightingale, who sits in darkness and sings to cheer its own solitude with sweet sounds.”
Wherever you find yourself in these rapidly changing times, life holds constant potential for the emergence of the good. In even the darkest times of 2020, I found that the hard stuff was easier and more bearable with contemplating new possibilities. The new year is a great time to for resetting priorities and sharpening skills for self-care. Coaching support is available here and see mind-body offerings below for support with reducing stress and increasing energy. Here is an article on Evidenced Based Health Benefits of Practicing Qigong.
In the midst of this global healthcare crisis, I am moved by our providers unceasing devotion. Over the holidays, Julie Tom, my dearest childhood friend, passed away from early Alzheimer’s at the age of 64. While not wanting to let go, her providers were profoundly helpful guides when considering quality of life decisions.
The experience of witnessing this beloved friend’s rapid decline brought additional pause and incentive for understanding more about the brain and taking good care. In Dr. Sanjay Gupta’s new book, Keeping Sharp, Build a Better Brain at Any Age, he speaks of Five Pillars of Brain Health:
Move – Physical exertion has scientifically been proven to improve brain health and function. When moving, you are signaling to the brain, I want to be here!
Discover – Get outside your comfort zone and learn a new skill or language. It’s change that builds resiliency and asking what is my purpose?
Relax – Stress is particularly subversive, so we need to find ways to unwind and get restorative sleep. Poor sleep and chronic stress can lead to impaired memory diminishing ability to adapt to new situations.
Nourish – Eat well, as diet affects brain health (and overall health, too). The human gut microbiome – trillions of bacteria that make their home in our intestines – also have a profound affect on the functioning of our brains.
Connect – Gather (socially distant) where possible for interaction. Certain beneficial neurochemicals are released when looking another in the eye. Taking a brisk walk with a friend and talking about challenges can be extremely beneficial for the brain!
Fall is upon us and so is the opportunity for taking better care of ourselves. My heart goes out to those of you who have been impacted by the recent wildfires. The devastation from these fires has distilled what’s most important. When all else falls away, what’s left is our love and care for one another. Coaching support is available here. And see a free mind-body class below for support with self-care.
“As warriors in training we cultivate the courage and flexibility to live with uncertainty, with the shaky tender feeling of anxiety and nothing to hold on to – and to dedicate our lives to making ourselves available to every person, in every situation.” – Author unknown
This powerful quote speaks to the challenges of meeting multiple needs. It also raises the question about how does one best manage the impact of trauma? In Dr. James Gordon’s new book The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma he shares a model for relieving biological and psychological trauma, decreasing anger, improving sleep, mood and enhancing hope.
Hestates: “Self-Care is the True Primary Care.” If you are looking for support for recovering from what has been a challenging time, enjoy this wonderfully uplifting resource!
Sustaining Your Health The fall can be a restorative time for reflection and slowing down. Balancing moving with sitting is essential for our vitality. Holden Qigong is a mind-body practice that is a practical tool for maintaining health and building your immune system. Join me for a new seven week class combining 5 Aspects of Whole HealthTM and Five Element Qigong. In Qigong for Sustaining Resiliency learn health concepts and mindfulness tools for calming for your mind, relaxing your heart and replenishing for your body.
Inspiration “As we learn to accept and embrace rather than flee from or numb ourselves to trauma’s challenges, we can discover, that our greatest pain can teach us the most important truths about ourselves: who we are and how inextricably connected we are to one another, what gives our lives Meaning and Purpose; and how we can live with greater wisdom, compassion, joy and love.” -James Gordon, MD
It’s been said, “It’s never too late to make the next best decision.”
Along with many who are struggling right now in this soul crushing time, I’ve been hesitant to write. However, while pondering pain in the world, possibilities and passion, my heart felt called to share what’s new with Partnership-Works and about a free offering, that you may find enlivening. See complimentary movement offering below.
Partnering with our minds and bodies for well-being is it’s own practice. As many of you know, in 2017 I became certified as a Whole Health Educator through the National Institute of Whole Health. This work has brought deeper understanding to “how much” stress influences breakdown of our immune system, leading to new resources for coaching clients. The good news is, even when our health gets knocked down, our bodies are working on our behalf in every moment towards recalibration.
Given circumstances of the worldwide coronavirus, do you feel like you are being transformed? For those of you feeling like it is burning away old ways of doing and calling up new ways of being, coaching support is available here.
In this time of extraordinary suffering, we have all witnessed health care workers and business owners facing uncharted territories of stress. If you are a provider or business leader looking for tools to help manage stress, there are a couple of local organizations that may be able to help. Mindful Medicine has several new offerings for providers and Transforming Communication offers organizations a unique dialogue process for freeing up patterns of harmful communication, while bringing cohesion to their mission. It is an honor to be partnering with both of these groups committed to elevating resources for health, leadership and community building.
Having a mindfulness practice is foundational to one’s sanity and well-being, especially these days. Health is enhanced through the practice of Qigong which comes from the Chinese Health Care tradition. It is a transformative practice for decreasing stress and increasing energy.
Holden QiGong is a game changer for improving one’s vitality. Currently participating in their teacher-training program, I am inspired to share a series of Qigong movements, postures and meditations for enhancing immunity and resiliency. Please join me for this virtual practice:
Complimentary Qigong Offering:
Time: July & August Fridays, 8:00 AM – 8:30 AM, Pacific Time
Register in advance, at Zoom Meeting Link You are welcome “anytime” throughout! The practices will be calming for the mind, relaxing for your heart and replenishing for your body.
This week a colleague shared the meaning of his “tag line.” It was a heart stopping conversation.
His brother has been a quadriplegic since his early twenties after a freak fall. Having worked in rehabilitation, I was curious about his story.
He married a woman with cerebral palsy knowing they would not have long together. Given she too was confined to a wheel chair, their primary connection was face to face conversation.
Most relationships are enriched and complicated by differences of values, where we live, work, social engagements, travel, sex, sports, health, intellectual stimulation, attraction, family issues, etc. We make it about all of that! These two made it work within the confines of full bodied presence to one another.
For work, he makes websites for people with disabilities through use of voice command technology. Sometimes in the process he gets bedsores and the only way he can heal is through laying flat for weeks at a time, being turned frequently.
One day, his brother asked him, how do you do it? How do you lay there for hours doing nothing?
He replied, “It’s what I must do to live.”
This amazing man could be complaining and, instead, finds the resiliency to encourage others by frequently saying, “Make it a great day!”
My friend stated, “He’s always reminding me…” “This is why it’s my tag line.”
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